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Chris Tobey 1948-2009. My Friend & Partner.

May 15th, 2009 by Jerry

Writing about Chris is painful yet I know no better way to honor him than with a blog.  He was the most gifted writer I have ever known – not because his word choices were witty,  because he wrote without editing his heart.  His words always carried his gentle, loving, and very smart spirit. SO writing anything about Chris I feel inadequate to do him justice.

He was always ahead of his time with thought, vision, coupled with an incredible acceptance of others.  In the 15 years he was my devoted friend I can not recall a single time I felt judged, and I gave him plenty of material.   He was the true definition of a gentleman.  He has shaped my life in every way.

Chris, I miss you.  “onward and upward”

Jerry

56 Responses to “Chris Tobey 1948-2009. My Friend & Partner.”

  1. Alexander says:

    Chris was a man of great vision and i really miss him; to have gone to his service was an honor. I learned so much about his life & his spirit carries on with every passing day in the hearts of everyone who has come to love him just as you have Jerry.

    ~Alex

  2. Sully says:

    I heard of Chris’ passing much later than most of you. I first met Chris when I began working at Empire Music in Bethesda, 40 years ago. Chris and I began dating shortly thereafter, for about 2 years. We were both musicians. He and his F-Hole Acoustic and me and my Emmons Steel Guitar. We were both extremely passionate about our music. We used to hang out with Dave & Damion Einstein at WHFS. Crazy days at Empire Music, with John Hurd and many others. So many memories of family times with Marje and Patty. Spending hours in the basement listening to his favorite albums and discussing the nuances of certain songs. (Yes, I still have that Gil Evans album he gave me!!) Many years passed, and one day, Chris made a point to see me to tell me he had gotten clean and sober. He had so much courage to make it through that difficult process. And he triumped over that and any other challenge he faced since then.
    Chris, I will always remember your wonderful laugh. We shared so much in the short time we were together. Such great sorrow to hear of your passing; however, the music that we shared will bring some solace to all of those who knew you.
    with love,
    Sully

  3. Jen Engelmeier says:

    Meeting Chris, I knew he was an angel right away. Nobody with eyes like that, and a warm smile, backed up with really super special friends isn’t an angel. Not that I’m an angel expert, I’m just saying…

    Stuck in a strange place over how to feel, what to do, what to send and all the social feelings that get bruised, I have been working on creating happiness for people and friends when they die. We’ll see if it works.

    Jerry and all the lovelies at hottubworks.com, I am sorry for your loss, and happy for your gain (which by far outweighs the pain).

    Chris, may the force be with you, and may your hot tub up in heaven has an ozonator ;)

    Jen

  4. Chris Hill says:

    Just heard (8/23/09) from a buddy (Big Lar) from the old neighborhood of Wildwood Manner in Bethesda that Chris was now in Rock-n-roll Heaven. All us guys (Tremmel, Boots, Bruggers, Bartels, et al) knew Chris from grammar/high school when some of us were trying to learn some basic chords, and Chris was already playing the bass in some local bands. Wore it down around his crotch like the cool guys of the era did. He was BAD! Lost contact after HS, but glad to learn from his obit that he went far in the biz, and still kept his cool. Also that he had such a loving family and business associates. He was far too young, but no doubt they’re jammin’ in heaven. Adios amigo! Chris Hill (Tennessee)

  5. Bill Bartmann says:

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